The first time I purchased something kinky, it was at the behest of my (now ex) boyfriend. He had grand ideas about our bedroom escapades, and we needed to stock up on a few things. Unfortunately, I didn’t know what I was doing, and ended up with some dud purchases. Here are three things I … Continue reading Kinky Shopping: 3 Things I Wish I Knew Before Checkout
I’m a big advocate for using the words you want in order to identify and describe yourself. Nobody knows you better than you do. But I’m also a big fan of knowing the history of your words. The word queer has been around since old timey white dudes used it to describe something odd, strange, … Continue reading Are Asexual People Queer?
I don’t work for free. Exposure doesn’t pay my bills. I can’t buy groceries with free sex toys. I don’t care if you’re a company that’s just starting out, or doesn’t have the budget, or doesn’t pay bloggers. I put time, energy, and hard work into my reviews and posts. I care about my social … Continue reading I Don’t Work for Free
With the holidays rapidly approaching, my calendar has suddenly filled up with travel. My family is in California, so I’ll be visiting them for Thanksgiving and Christmas, hopping between the Pacific Northwest and sunny SoCal. With that, I thought I’d put together a little list of my top toys to travel with! Noje W3 Mini … Continue reading Home for the Holidays: My Top Three Travel Toys
Spoiler alert: I fucking love this toy. And so does everyone in my sphere of the internet, including Lilly, Erika, Suz, Luna, A Couple of Kinks, and Blissfully Orgasmic. I was sent the L’amourose Prism V by SheVibe, and it’s quickly become a bedside staple for when I want easy, deep, rumbly g spot stimulation. … Continue reading Review: L’amourose Prism V
The first time I slipped into a strap on harness, I was in a hotel room with a guy I met from the internet. He had confided that getting fucked in the ass by a girl with a strap on was the pinnacle of his sexual fantasies, and he was convinced that he wouldn’t get … Continue reading Square Peg, Round Hole: On Pegging, Submission, and Asexuality
Content note: I talk about some feelings around butt stuff here, which might be triggering or distressing for those working through feelings of shame or "dirtiness". While that's not the view I hold of anal play, I do understand if you want to skip this particular post! Keep yourselves safe, loves! Unpopular opinion: I think … Continue reading What the Fuck is Up With Butts?
I started this morning with a short thread of tweets that smacked so intensely of melancholy that my partner left bed on his morning off because he said his “Taryn senses were tingling” and that I needed a hug and lots of reassurance. (Award for Best Other Half goes to this guy.) It’s easy for … Continue reading Fun Fraud Feelings: The Paradox of the Asexual Sex Blogger
I wrote recently about how powerlifting makes me feel femme as fuck. It was first attempt at putting into words what I hope to expand on more in this post. It’s about using femininity as a source of power, not just as an armor to deflect, but as a power to actively propel me and … Continue reading Femme As Fuck: My Femme is My Power
Like gender, sexuality is a spectrum. It’s not black or white, it’s not all or nothing. And while all or nothing might be easier to understand, it leaves out a lot of nuance that is needed with things like gender and sexuality. This is by no means comprehensive, and there are a lot of different … Continue reading What is the Asexual Spectrum?