I started this morning with a short thread of tweets that smacked so intensely of melancholy that my partner left bed on his morning off because he said his “Taryn senses were tingling” and that I needed a hug and lots of reassurance. (Award for Best Other Half goes to this guy.) It’s easy for … Continue reading Fun Fraud Feelings: The Paradox of the Asexual Sex Blogger
I wrote recently about how powerlifting makes me feel femme as fuck. It was first attempt at putting into words what I hope to expand on more in this post. It’s about using femininity as a source of power, not just as an armor to deflect, but as a power to actively propel me and … Continue reading Femme As Fuck: My Femme is My Power
Like gender, sexuality is a spectrum. It’s not black or white, it’s not all or nothing. And while all or nothing might be easier to understand, it leaves out a lot of nuance that is needed with things like gender and sexuality. This is by no means comprehensive, and there are a lot of different … Continue reading What is the Asexual Spectrum?
I got my introduction to Yes/No/Maybe lists from the inimitable Bex of Bex Talks Sex. They, like me, use spreadsheets to a fault, and posted about Yes/No/Maybe lists on their own blog. I thought it was a fabulous idea, and immediately downloaded the template and started filling in the gaps. I thought it was great! … Continue reading My First Yes/No/Maybe List: And Why You Should Have One
Heads up loves, I do a lot of talking about my body weight and disordered eating in this post. If this is a topic you’d rather avoid, feel free to skip this post! Of course, this post is based on my personal experience, and shouldn’t be taken as a blanket generalization. Now, onward! I’ve been … Continue reading Fat Sex is Better Sex
June had a lot going on for me. It was the first total month I’ve lived with my partner. It was hot as balls. It was a month of cat trees, boozy ice cream floats, parents visiting, and blog updates. One of those blog updates is that I’m officially self-hosted now! This is a … Continue reading June Wrap Up
Asexuality, like other sexualities and genders, is a spectrum. That means there are some people, like me, who really enjoy having sex despite identifying as ace. Other people don’t enjoy it, or just can’t tolerate it at all. But sex isn’t the only thing-- physical or otherwise-- that fosters intimacy. There are lots of great … Continue reading 10 Ways to Maintain Intimacy Without Sex
When 19-year-old me saw pretty glass balls with delicate flowers in the center, I bought them. And then put them in my vagina.
Finding your identity is a process, and even though I have a word for it now, I don’t think that’s the end of it. There’s always more.
You can tailor kink to your needs. You can use it as another form of intimacy with a partner, you can let it be introspective.