It’s totally natural to get stuck in a little bit of a rut, especially if you’ve been able to play with the same partner for a while. Foreplay is usually one of the first things to go, in my experience. You know what works, so why deviate? Because it’s fun and can really reinvigorate you and your partner! Here are some ideas to get that creativity flowing.
Sexting at Work
This is super fun and super titillating, if you can manage it. Sending risqué messages to each other between meetings or classes can be a fun way to start thinking about that night’s activities! This can be especially fun if you’re separated for a few days by travel or life circumstances. Build that tension (without getting caught)!
Shop Together
Looking to add new things to your toy box or wardrobe? Shop together! Not only will you get a sense of what your partner likes and dislikes, but you can talk about situations/fantasies in which a given item would be applicable… and how much you want to try it out!
You can start adding variety with something simple like a vibrator or dildo, or maybe something more intense like a spreader bar or collar. It just depends on what you like!
Something that’s really fun to add some variety is pot lube. Yeah, you can get your vagina stoned. It’s pretty great! It doesn’t quite have the same effect for penises, though apparently it’s not necessarily a bad sensation, just not as noticeable as those with g-spots. From personal experience, it is very good on a g-spot.
Cooking Together or Feeding Each Other
You know that trope of a couple lying on a fur rug in front of a roaring fire feeding each other strawberries? There’s a reason it’s a trope! Feeding your loved one a sensual meal can be fun and exciting. Spending time in the kitchen is always fun and helps you work on your collaboration and communication skills at the same time.
Good meal choices include sushi, small pastas (think penne or those little bow ties, no long spaghetti noodles!), and things you can easily cut with a fork and knife… just stay away from chili cheese dogs, please. Unless that’s your thing!
Make Out, but Nothing More!
Make a rule that you can get frisky on the couch and make out for a while like teenagers, but, like teenagers, nothing below the belt! Set a timer if you need to and make a rule that you can get it on after the timer goes off. You’ll be counting down the seconds!
Blindfolds– for Both of You!
A totally dark room will work for this too, but not many of us have truly pitch-black rooms. Removing your and your partner’s ability to see yourselves means you have to pay more attention to other senses: touch, taste, smell. It requires more contact to know what your partner’s body feels like and how they’re responding, and might encourage some better communication as well. So turn off the lights and get out those sleep masks!
Foreplay doesn’t have to always be the same old boring steps. Switch it up once in a while and reap the benefits of new and exciting techniques as that excitement spills over into the rest of your sex life!
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