Hey there, Alex from Sexology Bae here! I’m beyond excited to write this guest post about one of my favorite topics, ethical non-monogamy or ENM. As a twentysomething, within my lifetime I’ve seen ENM go from a relatively unknown alternative lifestyle more commonly associated with kink communities to a better-known…
When Asexuality Becomes Dangerous (and How to Move Forward)
Note: I do a lot of generalizing in this piece. The problem of violence towards cisgender women is most frequently committed by cisgender men, and introducing racial and trans identities would make this a novel rather than an article. I speak in heterocentric, cis-centric language in this piece not to…
Tantus, Woodhull, and the Larger Sex Blogger Community
Well. A lot has happened over the last few days on the Twitter timeline. In these kinds of situations, I have to do a lot of self-evaluation on whether or not my voice is warranted. I’m a white, cis, femme, financially privileged woman. My voice isn’t the priority in a…
The History of Asexuality
I listen to a lot of podcasts. Particularly Stuff You Should Know and Sawbones. One thing these two podcasts have in common is that when they start talking about the history of something, it normally starts in ancient China or Rome or Mesopotamia or something. Asexuality is not like that.
Sexual Freedom Summit: What I Learned at #SFS18
Last year, I left Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit with some regrets. I wasn’t as social as I wanted to be, I felt really out of place and unintelligent, I felt like I was socially on the outs, and it brought up a lot of feelings from college where I had…
4 Things I Wish Sex Ed Had Taught Me
My high school’s sex ed curriculum was probably indicative of the country at large. We didn’t learn much aside from looking at diagrams of reproductive organs, and to not have sex otherwise we would get pregnant and have to go to the alternative high school across down. It was by…
Using Jealousy to Your Advantage: How to Listen to Your Gut
I’m not necessarily a jealous person, but I do have an overactive imagination. Pair that with anxiety, and I’m The Most Worried Girl, Jumping to Conclusions in a Single Bound! If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that if something feels off, it probably is… but maybe not in the…
Five Foreplay Favs
It’s totally natural to get stuck in a little bit of a rut, especially if you’ve been able to play with the same partner for a while. Foreplay is usually one of the first things to go, in my experience. You know what works, so why deviate? Because it’s fun…
Common Causes (& Fixes!) of Sexual Pain
When I was but a wee bab, I was under the impression that sex was always effortless, embarrassment-free, and absolutely never hurt. Wee bab Taryn was incorrect, as most of us are. Sometimes things hurt! Sex should be fun and easy, but sometimes it takes a little bit of work…
The Art Of Checking In: Make Your Relationship Better One Week At A Time
In passing last week on Twitter, I mentioned that my fiance and I have weekly check-ins. This lead to questions about what’s entailed, and I thought that the process deserved a little more elaboration than I could fit in a thread of tweets. So, here’s a whole post about the…