I got my introduction to Yes/No/Maybe lists from the inimitable Bex of Bex Talks Sex. They, like me, use spreadsheets to a fault, and posted about Yes/No/Maybe lists on their own blog.
My First Yes/No/Maybe List: And Why You Should Have One
10 Ways to Maintain Intimacy Without Sex
Asexuality, like other sexualities and genders, is a spectrum. That means there are some people, like me, who really enjoy having sex despite identifying as ace. Other people don’t enjoy it, or just can’t tolerate it at all. But sex isn’t the only thing– physical or otherwise– that fosters intimacy.…
That Time I Lost Something In My Vagina
When 19-year-old me saw pretty glass balls with delicate flowers in the center, I bought them. And then put them in my vagina.
Finding Asexuality
Finding your identity is a process, and even though I have a word for it now, I don’t think that’s the end of it. There’s always more.
Is This the Way Kink is Supposed to Work?
You can tailor kink to your needs. You can use it as another form of intimacy with a partner, you can let it be introspective.
Common Causes of Pain During Sex
Sex shouldn’t be painful. As you settle in and your arousal increases, discomfort should disappear. But pain? That’s not right.
On Reappearing
It’s only just starting to feel like I’m reappearing. Some part of me will be abruptly thrown into focus and I’m forced to shift my understanding of who I am.