I do a lot of gender and anatomy talk in this post. Though we should all remember that not every woman has a vagina and not everyone who has a vagina is a woman, many historical accounts ignore this. I’ll be referencing women a lot since that was likely the…
Faking It: Why You Should Bang, Even When You Don’t Want To
Disclaimer: This isn’t a post about how you should do things that you really don’t want to. If something is on your no list, don’t do it. If you’re not in a mental headspace to engage in play with your partner, don’t do it. But if you’re both on the…
What I Learned in My First Year of Blogging
A whole year. A whole year! Honestly, I didn’t think I’d make it this long. I’m a chronic project-starter, but not always a project-finisher. I’m exceptionally proud of myself for having kept this thing up and running and even– dare I say it– successful. Here’s what I learned in my…
What I Learned by Tracking My Orgasms
Before I started this blog, I followed a few different sex bloggers, and towards the end of the year, I started hearing some things about sex statistics. I can be a bit of a data nerd, so immediately my ears perked up. People kept spreadsheets of that? I immediately made…
Kinky Shopping: 3 Things I Wish I Knew Before Checkout
The first time I purchased something kinky, it was at the behest of my (now ex) boyfriend. He had grand ideas about our bedroom escapades, and we needed to stock up on a few things. Unfortunately, I didn’t know what I was doing, and ended up with some dud purchases.…
Are Asexual People Queer?
I’m a big advocate for using the words you want in order to identify and describe yourself. Nobody knows you better than you do. But I’m also a big fan of knowing the history of your words.
I Don’t Work for Free (And Neither Should You)
I don’t work for free. Exposure doesn’t pay my bills. I can’t buy groceries with free sex toys. I don’t care if you’re a company that’s just starting out, or doesn’t have the budget, or doesn’t pay bloggers. I put time, energy, and hard work into my reviews and posts.…
Square Peg, Round Hole: On Pegging, Submission, and Asexuality
The first time I slipped into a strap on harness, I was in a hotel room with a guy I met from the internet. He had confided that getting fucked in the ass by a girl with a strap on was the pinnacle of his sexual fantasies, and he was…
Fun Fraud Feelings: The Paradox of the Asexual Sex Blogger
I started this morning with a short thread of tweets that smacked so intensely of melancholy that my partner left bed on his morning off because he said his “Taryn senses were tingling” and that I needed a hug and lots of reassurance. (Award for Best Other Half goes to…
What is the Asexual Spectrum?
Like gender, sexuality is a spectrum. It’s not black or white, it’s not all or nothing. And while all or nothing might be easier to understand, it leaves out a lot of nuance that is needed with things like gender and sexuality. This is by no means comprehensive, and there…