Before I started this blog, I followed a few different sex bloggers, and towards the end of the year, I started hearing some things about sex statistics. I can be a bit of a data nerd, so immediately my ears perked up. People kept spreadsheets of that? I immediately made my own. Throughout the year, I tracked a variety of things like the toys I used and the porn I watched. Unsurprisingly, I learned a few things.
I’m Really Good at Jerkin’ It
Of my 110 masturbation sessions this year, only 4 didn’t lead to orgasm. I’d actually like to get this number up next year. I think there’s a lot to be said for masturbation that doesn’t focus on orgasm, or doesn’t even include it, as a point. I want to get better about enjoying things, not just racing to the finish line.
More Orgasms = Better Moods
I had the most orgasms in January with 27, almost one per day, which is huge for me! I think I had more orgasms in January of 2017 than I did in all of 2016. Unfortunately I hadn’t kept a spreadsheet for 2016, so there’s no way of knowing for sure. Ah well. The month with the least amount of orgasms was August… coincidentally the same month I was low in a depressive mode. I’m not saying one leads to the other, but I do think that lower orgasm counts are indicative of how my mental health is doing at any one time.
Anxiety is a Mood Killer
This is no surprise whatsoever to anyone on the planet. But it’s oddly nice to have confirmation that when my anxiety is higher, my orgasms are lower. 18% of my orgasms this year were with my partner, but it took me two months to get comfortable enough with him! Even then it was sporadic, but it’s gotten a whole lot better now! As I’ve settled into this relationship, my orgasm count has gone up, which is always a nice benefit.
Some Miscellaneous Stats
Most Used Toys:
- We-Vibe Tango (97)
- Noje W3 Mini Wand (31)
- nJoy Pure Wand (26)
- Standard Glass S Curve (20)
Least Used Toy:
Favorite Notes:
- “what the fuck” (January 3)
- “my clit and I are fighting” (February 10)
- “YOOOOOO he was fingering me and I had the Tango and HELLO IT WAS GREAT YES GOOD ORGASM THANK YOU” (May 15)
So, what changed for 2018?
I removed a few things, like tracking positions. It wasn’t that useful and I was shit at remembering what happened. I took out the column detailing which partner I was with, because like… there’s just one, these days.
I added a mood tracker, though! Just a 1-10 column to help me get a handle on how my mood fluctuates over the year and how more/less sex and/or orgasms influences that.
All in all, I’m pleased with the way my year turned out. In the upcoming year, my partner and I are working on improving the ratio of my orgasms to his, and I’ll be making more time for masturbation since that’s taken a decline after we moved in together. Hopefully I’ll be adding some more toys, and more locations since we have some travel on the horizon.
Are you keeping a spreadsheet for next year? Tell me about what you’re tracking! Looking to start your own spreadsheet? You can find my template here.
Oh this really speaks to my nerdy side too. I love keeping track of things and I might just ‘borrow’ this idea from you 😉
Rebel xox
Love this! Thank you for the template and perfect timing at the beginning of a new year 🙂
I should try to keep track of my masturbation as well, sounds like a really good idea